Relying on others for *character development can be disappointing. As a child, I recall wandering off to be alone. Quality alone time developed individuality, something I struggled with. Back then, I was treated as unimportant. One of my peers went so far as to say, “You don’t have to worry about this, you’re not going to college anyway.” Quality time with good company develops character to cope with life, people, as well as insight into who we are.
* “the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.”
The world can be filled with hostility. People really need an escape from that. Life is unpleasant sometimes. A healthy balance of solitude provides enlightenment. Refreshing perspectives come about by letting it go. Thinking for myself is the best encouragement ever received from a friend. Who’s my best friend? Well, of course I am.
*Alfie Kohn has emphasized education, self-discipline, early development. Kohn wrote: “[…] imposing discipline on children (either to improve their behavior or so they’ll apply themselves to their studies) isn’t nearly as desirable as having children discipline themselves” (2008).
Kohn’s criticisms of competition and rewards have been widely discussed and debated, and he has been described in Time magazine as “perhaps the country’s most outspoken critic of education’s fixation on grades [and] test scores. www.alfiekohn.org
Nonetheless, today I consider myself to be an over-educated, autodidact.
Auto- means “self” and “didact” comes from the Greek word for “teach,” someone who’s self–taught. Regardless of what people think of our potential, it’s up to individuals to find our own sense of purpose.